This Time Last Year

This past weekend had some ups and downs as a mom. Saturday was good because my baby was in a good mood, and we did a lot of playing. But then Sunday came, and he wasn’t having any of it. We think his molars are starting to break through so his little mouth has been really sore. We took Sunday as a teething day and just snuggled, which to me, is one of the best parts of motherhood…the snuggles!

As I was snuggling with him this weekend, I began to reminisce a bit about this time last year. This specific weekend last year, we were getting ready to go to the hospital for his delivery. Although I personally have no frame of reference, it wasn’t the easiest or quickest of deliveries!

On Saturday, one year ago, we were finishing the paint in his room. We had the furniture, although not put together yet. Lol! We were told not to worry about whether his nursery would be ready before his arrival because most babies don’t even sleep in their own room for the first year. And he hasn’t. At all. I remember we had picked a very light shade of gray; it’s so light it looks almost white. But we did it this way because all of his furniture is dark gray. We had actually finished painting the room the day before, but because the paint color was in different cans, it somehow showed up as two different colors on the walls. So, we took Saturday and repainted the whole room so in our eyes it would all match. We had been told by my doctor to check in at midnight, so we had all of Saturday to get ready. I hadn’t had any contractions or Braxton-Hicks; he was just patiently chilling in my cozy stomach, so it was a pleasant day. We packed our hospital bags, dropped our dog at our nephew’s house and headed to the hospital. It was exciting and scary all at the same time. I had gotten some cute “mom” socks to wear in the hospital so once we were settled in our room, I had my hubby take the picture for the social media update.

I was checked on every 3-4 hours once we were settled, so sleep was intermittent. Withholding the graphic speak, my doctor wanted to do some prep work on my body so the first day was mostly just waiting for things to occur. By10:15p on Sunday night, I was only dilated to a 1. Thanks to my social media post, most of my friends were anxiously awaiting my “welcome to the world baby boy” post, so they started texting when it never came. Early Monday morning things started to progress a little better. The doctor started the Pitocin, I got the epidural (I wasn’t about to let that window pass me by!!) and then the doctor broke my water about 6:15a that morning. After that, everything was on a roller coaster…I would progress more and then it would slow down, and I would progress more and then it would slow down. Finally, about 10:30p Monday night, I was 100% effaced and dilated to a 9-1/2. The doctor could feel his head but wanted him to drop a little more so I wouldn’t have to work so hard.

To pass the time, my husband and I started looking at famous people born on November 23 and 24. Not that we had any control over when he would actually arrive, it was fun to check and see who he would share his birthday with. Well, by the time they were ready for me to push, it was already November 24, so guess that would be his birthday. As a side note, I had had a sonogram the day before we reported to the hospital to check in and I had seen the size of his head. I told my husband I wasn’t looking forward to that part because his head had measured so big!

After pushing for 3-1/2 hours with hardly any progress, they determined his head wasn’t going to fit and it would be best to switch to a c-section. I was more than okay with that. I will say it’s amazing how quickly the doctors and nurses can have you ready for a c-section when time is of the essence! I had stopped pushing about 3:30 and baby boy was born at 4:01am. I was so excited he was finally here, but also so exhausted! I had been awake for more than 24 hours during that last day. And by the way, the crown of his head measured at 14” at birth!

So compared to this time last year, I would say the days were less eventful. Saturday was spent doing what most Americans do during the fall on the weekend…watch football. And hang Christmas lights! No last-minute preparations to do on the baby’s nursery this year. And to let you know, we almost have it fully decorated, even though he doesn’t sleep in there quite yet. Sunday was spent snuggling baby boy-almost toddler because of the next set of teeth trying to break their way through his gums. No laying around waiting for body parts to be ready for baby delivery. I’ll take the baby snuggles any day of the week! <heart>

The only preparations we’re doing now is getting everything ready for his first birthday! Although the labor and delivery were less than ideal, we wouldn’t trade the experience for anything if it still gives us YOU! We love you so much kiddo! And watching all your transformations over the past year, watching you grow into the cutest little human, watching you discover all the things and experiencing it with you, has been pure joy!

Happy Birthday Baby James!!

Approval Seeker

Okay, raise your hand if you constantly seek approval for the things you do?  Or, if you sometimes (fibber) seek approval for the things you do?

You can’t see me, but I’m not only raising my hand, I’m jumping up and down so you can see that my hand is raised high in the sky!!!  Sad, I know!

I’m really bad at this!  I try my best to be humble and most of the time I can succeed at being humble.  But when I do something really well or create something that’s really beautiful or write something that I think is profound, I really want someone to comment on it and tell me, “Good job” or “Way to go”.  Or like when I really clean the house.  Sorry about this…I love my house to be clean…I just don’t want to be the one that has to do the work! So, when I really clean it and it sparkles, I want my husband to (1) notice and (2) tell me how great it looks!  Really, is it too much to ask!?!?!!

So, here’s the basis for why I’m writing about this brutally honest subject.  A few weeks ago, our women’s ministry at my church launched a new website and within that website we started a blog.  As the editor and poster for all of our blog writers, I post about two blogs each week…giving each blog a chance to reach out and really soak in with our followers and to attract new followers.  We’ve had some great feedback and “likes” to the blogs that have been posted over the past few weeks.  Until this week.  I posted my first blog on our new site and for days (really only a couple, but it seemed longer), we didn’t receive any new followers, “likes” or comments.  I was pretty sure I scared off all of our current followers and any new potential followers.  I refer to it as my “in-your-face” blog because I wrote about offense and being offended.  Our women’s bible study is studying about offense this next semester, so I thought it’d be a great way to advertise for our group by writing a blog about it.  If I have peaked your curiosity at all, you can check it out here (http://cherishedministriesfcfc.com/2014/01/26/who-me-offended/).

I say all of that to say this…why does it matter so much to me what anyone thinks of what I wrote?  Do I really think that this one post is going to make people like me less?  Compared to other blogs I’ve read it’s not very controversial; yet, it’s a topic that makes people feel uncomfortable.  And because I know I don’t like to feel uncomfortable, I guess I was overly concerned about how the blog was received.

And just to prove what a great sense of humor God has…as I was writing this blog, I took a break and was looking on Facebook and ran across this post by Christine Caine:

approval seeker

Talk about snapping me back into attention!!  And that’s really the only thing I need to remember…it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks about me, says about me, likes or dislikes about me and my talents, gifts and abilities…the only One I need to concern myself with is my Heavenly Father.  He loves me unconditionally, all the time, every day, no matter what!!

“…For God has said, ‘I will never fail you.  I will never abandon you.’ So we can say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?’” ~Hebrews 13:5-6 (NLT)

To the One I Love…

Today is my husband’s 40th birthday!  Lucky for me, he reaches this climactic age before I do!!!  But, I’m not all that far behind…mine is only 6 months away.

But today, my focus is on my sweetheart, my love!  I wanted to do something really meaningful for him to commemorate this special day in his life.  To my husband, my love, I dedicate this blog to you…my one and only!!!

Forty wonderful years ago, my sweet hubby was born.  Isn’t he just the cutest baby!?!?!  Check out that full head of hair!!!

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Knowing that he is really going to get me good after this post, I might as well go all out & share some other great pictures of him growing up…

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He’s such a cutie…even at a young age!!  I didn’t know him at this age, so let’s move on to the years where I did know him…junior high & high school!!

jim 19 jim 23

This good-looking guy first caught my eye in the eighth grade.  Not only was he good-looking, but he was also one of two guys that was taller than me at the time…that was a huge factor for me, being the tallest girl in our class!!

Now, to the man I fell head over heels in love with my senior year in high school and have been captivated by him ever since…

Sr pic

Ruggedly good looking, I say…but I am 100% biased!! He stole my heart on Valentine’s Day when we were seniors, the same way he did when we were in eighth grade!  He asked me out on March 22 and my life has never been the same!!

Several years ago for Valentine’s Day, I made him a picture, listing the “47 Things I Love About You”.  I’d like to share some of those today…just as a reminder to him how much I  love him and how thankful I am that God chose me to be his wife!!

I love your smile

I love your sense of humor

I love when we curl up on the couch and watch movies together

I love that you call me the love of your life

I love that you know my faults and love me anyway

I love the way that you still open doors for me

I love the way you make me laugh…even after all these years

I love that I can wink at you in a certain way and no matter your mood, you’ll always laugh

I love that you miss me even on a day trip

I love the way you make me feel safe and secure

I love your big bear hugs

I love the way you hold my hand

I love your honesty

I love your work ethic

I love your compassion for people

I love that you listen to my opinion

I love to hear you laugh

I love that no matter what we go through, good or bad, we go through it together

I love that you’re a family man and don’t want to be anywhere else

I love that I already know you’ll be the best dad

I love that you’re a problem-solver

I love that you’re ticklish…even when you say that you aren’t

I love your eyes

I love that you’re a godly man and the head of our home

I love that you’re my husband

I love that you still take my breath away

Happy 40th Birthday Jim Hyden!!!!  I love you more and more every day!!!  Thank you for letting me share this life with you!!  I love you!!

2013-Aug 10